Negging ("to neg", meaning "negative feedback") is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and attempt to engender in them a need for the manipulator's approval.[1] The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists.[1]
Negging is often viewed as a straightforward insult rather than as a pick-up line,[2] in spite of the fact that proponents of the technique traditionally stress it is not an insult. Erik von Markovik, who is usually credited with popularising the term negs, explains the difference thus: "A neg is not an insult but a negative social value judgment that is telegraphed. It's the same as if you pulled out a tissue and blew your nose. There's nothing insulting about blowing your nose. You haven't explicitly rejected her. But at the same time, she will feel that you aren't even trying to impress her. This makes her curious as to why and makes you a challenge."[3]
Neil Strauss, in his book Rules of the Game, also stresses that the primary point of the technique is not to put women down but for a man to disqualify himself as a potential suitor. On this account he refers to negs as "disqualifiers", although the technique described in the book is recognisably the same as von Markovik's. Strauss is equally clear that negs should not be used as insults: "a disqualifier should never be hostile, critical, judgmental, or condescending. There's a line between flirting and hurting. And disqualification is never intended to be mean and insulting."[4]
The term has been popularized in social media[5] and mainstream media.[6][7][8] The opposite of negging is pozzing, whereby one pays a person a compliment in order to gain their affection.[6] However, pozzing can also refer to the intentional transmission of HIV.[9]
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References
- ^ a b Nicholson, Jeremy (31 August 2013). "Can an Insult Make You Fall in Love?". Psychology Today. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ Woolf, Nicky (25 May 2012). "'Negging': the anatomy of a dating trend". New Statesman. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to get beautiful women into bed, St Martin's Press, 2007 ISBN 978-0-312-36011-5Negging
- ^ Neil Strauss, Rules of the Game, Canongate Books, 2007 ISBN 978-0-061-54044-8Negging
- ^ Marcotte, Amanda (18 April 2015). "How the bitter men of the MRA movement ruin things for other guys". Raw Story. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ a b Bradshaw, Peter (21 January 2015). "A brief history of pozzing and negging". The Guardian. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ Hale, Mike (20 April 2014). "Back to 'The Boondocks,' Minus Its Creator's Touch". The New York Times. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ Henderson, Odie (12 April 2015). "Silicon Valley Season 2 Premiere Recap: Hooli's Revenge". Vulture. Retrieved 21 April 2015.
- ^ Griffiths, Mark. "Contract Killing". www.psychologytoday.com. Retrieved 29 August 2023.
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